INFO-GRAM

Last visit I talked about Reactive and Proactive language with kids.  With the emphasis on Reactive.

Boy, if you are a reactive language parent like I was, it takes a lot to change.  But it can be done and if you are reading this hopefully it won’t be too late.  But Moms, Dads, you are the one that must change, not your kids.

You will know if you are Reactive, you are always in arguments with your kids.  Bummer, I know, I was one.

The Proactive Language is more thought out, at least in the beginning until it comes naturally. Lets look at these examples.

Reactive= There is nothing I can do.  Proactive= Let’s look at our alternatives.

Reactive=He makes me so mad. Proactive= I control my own feelings.

Reactive=I can’t.  Proactive= I choose.

Reactive= I must. Proactive= I prefer.

Reactive= If only. Proactive=I will.

Look at the difference between these examples.  Proactive definatly takes the responsibility. Proactive is positive. Proactive chooses the better alternative for happiness and peace.

I once read this book about 30 years ago, can’t remember the name but fantastic book.  How to change your life or Why aren’t you happy.

In the book it talked about making everything in your life a preference instead of a “have to have it.”  It took me so many years to change my have to haves to preferences.  What a difference it makes in life and I watch all of those who struggle with their addictions.  Thank you Spirit.

MOMS, DADS, try some of these out.  Just try them and see what difference they can make in your relationships with your kids.  Let me know.